You’re Invited
Not too long ago, I introduced you to my client, Raya, who made an extraordinarily unexpected decision in response to a career opportunity. And in response to that, I’ve been having a lot of conversations across socials and in my DMs about success:
How do I redefine success?
What value do I place on success if how I’ve previously measured it no longer applies?
How do I rewire my mindset of what success looks like?
This last question hit me. Hard. “I want to change, but I don’t know how to get my mind to catch up to my heart.” When you’re an ambitious person who aspires beyond today, when you’ve invested in the system of meritocracy and you’ve got the accolades to prove your achievements, when you’ve done all of the right things and checked all of the boxes and upleveled on-schedule… we get stuck on the how. We’re so accustomed to the hustle of DOING that we’ve lost sight of what’s most important, of what kick-started this procedure of accomplishment in the first place.
During this month of gratitude, of harvest, and of giving, I invite you to reflect and expand your options beyond the box you find yourself in. Instead of focusing on the binary right/wrong of what success looks like, ask yourself:
How do I rewire my mindset of what it means to have a successful life?
In addition to the old chestnuts of “what matters to you” and “what do you value”, I invite you to imagine what it means to lead a successful life. Where do the things you’re passionate about and the things that give you purpose align? What impact do you want to have, and how are you honoring that today? How am I getting in my own way?
I invite you to focus less on the tactical steps (for now), and instead gift yourself a reimagined outcome.
And if you’re looking for the step-by-step process, here it is:
Get clear on what having a successful life means to you
Understand the priorities and values that need to be in place to make that successful life real
Act with purpose and intention to create new habits and routines (ah-ha, there’s the doing)
There is no shame in changing your mind. There is no shame in wanting something different for yourself. There is no shame in accepting an invitation to choose yourself as you grow, learn, evolve, and aspire.
