Go Love Yourself
There’s a moment that happens during a coaching engagement that has become predictable, right around our seventh session together.
We’re beyond those initial, invigorating conversations during which we define your I Want statement and really envision what it looks and feels and tastes like, to make that I Want into an I Am. You’re smack in the middle of moving towards your goal. You’re embracing new behaviors and approaches, and you’re exploring the Funknown. You can see your goals ahead.
Things. Are. Happening.
And then your Imposter Inner Voice (IIV) shows up (remember her?) and throws some cold water on your spark. Your confidence plummets. Your progress stops. That But What If Mixtape is cranked to 11.
And then you arrive to our coaching session and ask:
What if I can’t reach my goal?
My heart hurts every single time I’m asked this question.
This “what if I can’t” moment isn’t actually about doubting your abilities. It’s not. Your IIV wouldn’t have popped into view if your goals were too far-fetched. It’s why I invite you to select goals that make your toes tingle and make you want to puke: the bigger your emotional response to your I Wants, the more likely you are to hustle for them because they’re real to you.
No, this moment is purely about loving yourself, even if your goals are business-focused:
Loving yourself enough to believe you deserve the change you're working for
Loving yourself enough to say yes to something new
Loving yourself enough to break old habits and workshop fresh ones
Loving yourself enough to align your heart, your mind, and your soul to choose you
Loving yourself enough to unapologetically, unashamedly want something that’s only for you
And so we stumble through this moment of doubt together. To protect your squishy nougat center. To reset and re-calibrate. To revisit what brought you to coaching in the first place? To celebrate the distance you’ve travelled and the opportunities to come.
And the one question you can sure as shit expect I’m going to ask you,
“What will it take for you to go love yourself?”
Because friend, you goddamn deserve this.
